Clinic escort: woman who had 10 abortions is “empowered”
By Sarah TerzoAn abortion clinic escort, whose blog can be found here, wrote the following in a post on March 18:
There are times a client and/or companion is so empowered they instantly gain my admiration.
What is she so impressed by? She goes on to explain:
The companion [of the woman who was
having an abortion] got out of the car first. E [the pro-lifer] was
hovering right behind me ready to start shaming. I was able to explain
the vests and offer to escort them before he began his spiel. E handed
the companion some literature. When I explained he was a protester, they
handed it right back to him.
The companion and I escorted the
client down the sidewalk. We were in a line: E, companion, client and
me. E started with “Women regret their abortions. Don’t lead her into
this place.” The companion waved dismissively at him and said, “Oh, I
know all about abortion. I have had 10 already.” There was a pause then E
leaned over towards the client and said “You don’t have to go into that
place.” The client turned to me and said, “I am not listening to him.” I
replied that was best.
It was great to witness these two
completely ignoring the words meant to hurt and shame them…I felt
privileged to witness this calm confidence.
It’s takes a person who has embraced a truly hardcore pro-choice position to consider a woman who has had 10 abortions empowered. Is this the ideal world for clinic workers and escorts? A world where women use abortion as birth control, having multiple abortions and then getting pregnant again and again? How can repeatedly having an invasive surgical procedure that raises the risk of ectopic pregnancy, premature birth, and miscarriage be empowering?
According to the Guttmacher Institute, 47% of all abortions are repeat abortions. Among the women who have repeat abortions, 59% have had one previous abortion (and are getting their second), 25% have had two (and are getting their third), and 15% have had at least three (and are getting their fourth or more).
In an article about repeat abortions, pro-choice author Jennifer Baumgardner (who started the “I had an abortion” T-shirt campaign) says the following:
In the clinic world, repeat visitors
are called, not unkindly, “frequent fliers.” The reason that casual term
is not an insult is simply due to how common multiple abortions are. …
Virtually everyone I’ve spoken to was
working the clinic has a story of one patient who had not two or three
abortions, but 20 or more despite contraceptive counseling with each
clinic visit. (1)
A clinic worker participated in a question-and-answer session on Reddit.One reader asked the unnamed clinic worker the following question:
Q. Have you seen women get several abortions? Or use this as a method of birth control?
A. Unfortunately yes. Their
contraceptive choices are always stressed at these appointments but some
women simply do not wish to use birth control.
In an interview on Nightline on January 11, 2006, Martin Bashir spoke with abortionist William Harrison.Harrison comments, “I’ve had lots of patients who come in for second, third, fourth, fifth, even one who had nine abortions.”
When asked, “Is that really appropriate?,” he replied: “If she needs nine abortions, yeah. … Basically, abortion is a method of birth control. You know, it’s not the best method of birth control. But all it does is stop the birth of a baby that a woman doesn’t want at a time she doesn’t want it.”
A clinic worker who responded to a post on The Abortioneers about repeat abortion said the following in response to the blog writer’s question about whether repeat abortions made clinic workers uncomfortable:
I dunno, the more I talk to people about it I come to find that some women simply don’t want to use hormonal/unnatural contraception. Period. And these are not always poor, disadvantage, unaware women. Just as responsible and knowledgeable women make the choice to have abortions, those same women sometimes choose not to use anything. And that’s still OK!
I tried to explain this once to a friend who just couldn’t believe it, and understandably so. But I think it’s unsafe to typecast the “repeat offenders[.]“
The blogger herself states:
The patients who have had more than
three abortions are few and far between. But, the fact of the matter is
there are women who will present in a clinic five, six, seven times for a
procedure. This makes a lot of people, myself included, uncomfortable
on some level.
A different clinic worker who writes for the same blog said the following in another post:
Sometimes, just to feel people out, I
ask, “How do you feel about repeat abortions?” Some people will answer,
“One is OK, but more than that is just irresponsible,” which I may use
as a teaching opportunity, or I might just walk away. It depends on my
mood. But one person answered, “It’s an expensive type of birth control,
but if that’s a woman’s preference, that’s fine with me.” That counted
as a good answer.
The blog “RealChoice” by Christina Dunigan quotes a letter a pro-choice columnist received from a nurse who works in an abortion clinic that does late-term abortions. First, the clinic worker writing the letter, identified only as Kay, talks about the typical abortion done at her clinic. In the words of the columnist:
Every so often, a letter arrives in a
columnist’s mailbag that throws a hand grenade right into the middle of
a long-held view…. The letter came from a Registered General Nurse
named Kay who works on a gynecological ward that regularly deals with
late abortions. She apologized for the “unpleasant and upsetting aspects
of her letter” but felt her points needed to be said. I agree, and felt
it also warranted a wider audience. Apparently, at 20 weeks, tablets
can be given to kill the fetus prior to expulsion. But at 24 weeks it is
sufficiently strong to survive the treatment and many are born with
signs of life. “It is all too easy for people to picture a clump of
cells or mush. People don’t want to picture perfectly-formed miniature
babies and I don’t blame them. I was once the same. But having cut the
umbilical cord on one who survived, then had to watch him gasp for
breath for ten minutes on the side of a sink before he died, the sight
will haunt me forever.
The pro-choice columnist then says the following:
Kay doesn’t believe in criticizing or
hounding women who have to make this extremely tough decision due to
severe disability. Her feelings are reserved solely for those who use
termination as a form of contraception. Women who, up until last week, I
hoped were few and far between. But, according to Kay, these
terminations far outstrip those carried out because of fetal abnormality
or genuine emotional distress. She says:
‘There are girls who come back five
or six times demanding terminations and they get them. How can someone
coming in for their fifth termination be allowed to keep saying it is
due to emotional distress? I should imagine in ten year’s time the
emotional distress of being allowed to have five terminations is going
to take its toll. What is going on?
How should pro-lifers respond to women who use abortion as birth
control? These women seem to confirm the worst stereotypes that
anti-abortion activists have about women who abort – that they are
uncaring and irresponsible. But if you look deeper, many of these women
are suffering from emotional turmoil.In father Frank Pavone’s book Ending Abortion, Not Just Fighting It, he quotes Dr. Theresa Burke, who gives some perspective in her book Forbidden Grief:
Repeat abortions and replacement pregnancies are two common ways in which women reenact elements of their abortion trauma.
Pavone also quotes mental health professional Dr. Philip Ney saying the following:
Tragedy is repeated not because we do
not understand, but because we are trying to understand. Meaning that a
woman is reliving her abortion experience trying to resolve the trauma
by having a replacement child, but then realizes that the same reason
she had an abortion before is still present.
These doctors explain how the emotional trauma of abortion can
translate itself into repeating the same traumatic event again and
again. Rather than being cold and uncaring, many of these women are in
fact deeply hurting. The abortion clinic is not helping them by sending
them on their way, again and again, to repeat the destructive pattern.
From father Frank Pavone:
`An underlying conflict, perhaps
created by previous trauma, is unresolved. We find we cannot resolve it
by simply replaying it in our minds. So we relive it. This happens in
many arenas of life. The sexually abused child may become seductive; the
child who lacked touch and affection may seek an emotionally cold
partner, and so forth. We repeat what we don’t understand, in the hopes
of mastering it.
He eloquently gives pro-lifers guidance in how to respond to these women:
Repeat abortions can be repulsive
even to people who call themselves “pro-choice” and even to those who
work in abortion mills. Sometimes the reaction is exasperated,
indignant, “How could she do that??!!” But we should change the question
and ask instead, “How can I help you to heal?” That question expresses
the heart of the pro-life movement, a movement that knows that the
destiny of mother and child are forever intertwined and that we can’t
love one without loving the other.
1. Jennifer Baumgardner “Twice is a Spanking” from the pro-choice book by Krista Jacob. Abortion under Attack: Women on the Challenges Facing Choice (Emeryville, CA: Seal Press, 2006) 222.
Editor’s note. This appeared at liveactionnews.org.
Source: NRLC News