Same-Sex Marriage – The Welfare of Children and Creation

               

Growing up, I knew several people who were being raised, or had been raised, by single gender households. Not because they were lesbian or gay, but because one or the other parent was missing due to death, divorce or some other form of absence on one half of the child’s parentage.  

The argument brought up by gay and lesbians regarding children being raised by same-sex couples, is, “that children can be brought up by any combination of adults, as long as they are loved.”  

How many of you remember a kid in your neighborhood who suffered the loss of one or more of their parents, due to death, divorce or illness?  I recall one woman in our neighborhood, whose mother and father had been killed in an auto accident when she was quite young; leaving her to be raised by two old maid aunts. I recall how many times she spoke to my mother of the problems she had being raised by two elderly spinsters – particularly in her adolescence.   Most of all, the lack of a male parental figure in her formative years, left a huge emotional hole for which she was never quite able to overcome; and even though she married, a husband is not a father, and she became promiscuous with multiple lovers.   

Another friend of mine, whose parents were divorced, missed her father terribly; and even though she saw him every other weekend – she too became promiscuous with boys.  There were two other girls in our neighborhood, being raised by their father, because their mother had been permanently committed to a mental asylum. They suffered particular complications from the effects of not having a mom; and their father struggled to raise adolescent girls without a woman in the house.  

Who does not remember a distinct difference between being held by their father as a child, as opposed to being held by their mother? I certainly remember when my father picked me up; there was an entirely different emotional sensation created by his masculine strength and smell, which was quite different from my mother's femininity.  Though I felt nurtured in my mother’s arms – I felt safe in my father’s arms.   

Mother always made sure I was properly fed and bathed and dressed, and kissed my boo boos when I fell – while Dad always approached me with father daughter talks of the practical aspects of life.   I remember him  always asking me thought provoking questions, in an effort to engage my power of reason.  When I got older, it was my father who taught me how to open a bank account, write out checks, and balance my checkbook. And as there was no such thing as Driver’s Education in schools at that time, it was my father who taught me to drive. He even helped me get one of my first jobs. 

Most of all, I remember him putting on a record titled “Daddy’s Little Girl”, and placing me on his lap and singing to me along with the record, “and you’re Daddy’s little girl”.  What a treasured memory.  A girl’s father should be her first hero, her first romance – something a mother can never replace. 

But mostly, it was those indescribable things which each of them imparted to me, from their particular gender that formed my psyche in a way that the opposite gender could not.  The particular sound of my father’s voice, and the particular sound of my mother’s voice, each left their own unique impressions somewhere deep down inside me, that if one had not been there, the other could not have replaced.    

 It's not just about Love.

Yes, there will always be unfortunate children, who suffer the loss of one or both parents for whatever reason.  And we know from science that this creates a loss for these children that they will need to overcome as they grow and take their place in the world.   But, does this mean that because one person is denied something in life, that we should use that loss as a norm, or an excuse for any number of variations to raise children?   If one man is blind, does that mean that vision has no purpose? 

We’ve lost the whole understanding of why God designed marriage in the first place.  “Be fruitful and multiply” He commanded them. Even wine growers use the term marriage, when they graft two different vines from two different grapes, in order to produce a completely new and unique vintage. Rose growers know they can cut the stem of one rose and graft it onto the stem of another rose to create a totally different bud. The word marriage was meant to describe two different elements coming together in a merger, to bring about something that was not there before.  

Countries used to form alliances by marrying their children to one another; the bloodlines of each Monarch being tied to the other through their grandchildren.  

   

Two men or two women will never be able to graft their DNA together to create a new life.  They will never be able to tie their family’s bloodline with their partner’s bloodline.  “And the two shall become as one”, as it says in the Bible. Their sex will always be a sterile act with no fruit.  

Yes, there will always be heterosexual couples who are infertile.  But that is due to something being biologically not working.  There’s a difference in a machine not performing the task it was designed to do, because it is broken, and not performing it because someone is using the machine improperly.  Every machine has an operator’s manual, and a warranty which states, that if the machine is not used in the proper manner for which it was designed, this will invalidate the warranty. 

No two men or no two women will ever be able to create life from their sexual expression.  For sex is not merely an act of expressing love – but it is an Act of Love with a PURPOSE! 

 There are many acts of love.  A man may buy his wife flowers – a child may draw a picture for their mommy – a student may bring his teacher an apple.  There are even great acts of love, such as sacrificing one’s life for one’s country and family, or being a missionary in a foreign land.   But there is only one act of love which was specifically designed to continue the human race. Only one act of love in which the creature joins with the Creator to share in the miracle of Creation!  Only the sexual expression of love between one man and one woman can accomplish this. 

In the Bible, Jesus tells the parable of the seed.  Jesus says the seed that falls on rock, withers and dies because it cannot take root.  The seed that falls by the wayside is eaten by birds, and those seeds that fall among the thistles are choked out.  Only the seed that falls upon rich fertile soil will take root, grow and produce fruit. 

It does not take a brain surgeon to figure out, that a woman’s womb is the only fertile ground where a man’s seed may take root and live.   Where do two gay men plant their seed in one another?  What seed are two lesbian women able to receive from one another? 

This is why same-sex marriage can never serve the purpose for which God Himself instituted marriage.  He created the angels, each from His own hand.  But with man, He decided to do something different.  He created the first two human beings, and then placed within their loins the power to create all the rest of humanity.  He joins forces with human beings, in a way He never did - even with the angels. We have been blessed with a most awesome power!  And that power to create life is nothing to be treated casually or carelessly!  This is why marriage was instituted.  It is the sacred vessel, wherein the earthen vessels of two human beings share with their Creator in the awesome act of Creation. 

This is why sexual expression is not simply reserved for two people who think they love each other.   It is an extension of God’s own love, which breathes life into the whole world.  This is what marriage is for.