Saturday, May 21, 2011
Friday, May 20, 2011
Wednesday, May 18, 2011
A Safe Place Cont. - A Father Is Left Behind
Previously I wrote on the vulnerability of a woman with child and the great role which the father plays in hers and the child's protection. Today I will write on the vulnerability of fathers, who choose not to protect the woman and her child, and the tragic effects of this sad choice. In the beginning, it is the mother and her child who will suffer the effects of the father's abandonment. But as time goes by this will change. Of course we all know that the mother has full legal right to dispose of the child, which the father has left behind, through abortion ... but today I will speak of another aspect here that affects the man ... and without naming names, I will refer to a true story to prove my point ... the story of a father who gets left behind.
A young woman made a bad first marriage, as often happens in life, as it is not always easy to see the true character of someone until after we've married them. Upon discovering her first pregnancy, this young woman was actually approached by the mother of her husband, who suggested abortion because she insisted that her son was not ready for fatherhood yet ... the poor lad. The young woman did not listen to her mother in law, and eventually had two children with her ne'er- do-well husband, who neglected and eventually abandoned her and her children. The young woman and her two children first sought a "Safe Place" in an Abused Woman's Shelter. She then turned to her own mother, who helped the young woman by babysitting for her two grandchildren, so that the young mother could go out and work to support herself and her kids. It was a long hard road and the young mother, who had once been a very self-reliant and independent young woman on her own, now found it considerably more difficult with two young children in tow. A Safe Place? The only Safe Place this young woman had during those dark years, was her own ever faithful mother.
The long hard years caused the young mother to become angry and discouraged many times. And if her own loneliness was not hard enough to bear - to add insult to injury - the father of her children kept getting out of paying child support, due to the high paid attorneys of his well-to-do mother. All the while he was allowed full access to the visitation of his children, while at the same time enjoying the lavish life-style of his well-to-do parents, who took him with them on expensive vacations to Hawaii and the like. The injustice of the situation drove the young mother to near despair many times. The loyalty of her own mother, her own faith in God, along with her own steadfast love for her two children, were her only weapons against this despair.
Though she maintained gainful employment at a good company, the young mother had long yearned for an opportunity to finish her degree - something which had been interrupted once she married. And one day she was given an opportunity to do just that, through a unique college program which accepted young mothers with children. So, she took the risk of quitting her solid job, and with her two children alongside, enrolled in a woman's college out east, where for two years she and they would live in a college dorm, while she was able to complete her unfinished degree. It was an answer to prayer.
Today, with even better employment due to attaining her full degree, the young mother has purchased her own beautiful brand new home, for herself and her children. Not only that, but she has met a wonderful man, who loves her and her children and has the greatest respect for the young mother and her great courage. The date is set, and the young mother is joyfully choosing her wedding gown and planning her wedding, as this blog is being written. So what of the childrens' biological father?
For so long it seemed to the young mother, that the father of her children had gotten off Scott free. He also reveled in believing that he had escaped the responsibilities of fatherhood. How many times the young mother would cry, that he had moved on, while she struggled to raise two children on her own. One day all that will change, her mother kept telling the young woman. And today, the father is still a ne'er-do-well, still with no ambition or any real job prospects, still living off his well-to-do mother ... but as a divorced father of two children, his dating options are slightly hampered. Worst of all, his two children, though they still love him, see him as a rather pathetic character who did not have what it took to be a real dad to them.
As the young woman has had to settle in another state for her new employment, the father does not see his children all that often anymore. But whether he sees them or not, his children will now see another man across the breakfast table every morning ... another man will help them with their homework ... tuck them in bed at night and accompany them with their mother throughout their lives ... while their biological father is 'left behind'. And do not think that this father is not feeling this now. He has gone from feeling Scott free to feeling aimless and alone. At long last, the tables have turned .. and the young woman is living a fulfilling new life with her children, whom she cared for all those years on her own, while her playboy ex-husband threw his fatherhood away.
And what has happened to the young mother's ex mother in law? Now she grieves over her son's fate, as the mother of the young woman grieved over her poor daughter's plight for so long. Now she realizes, as her grandchildren are raised by another man, that her son is the one to be "left behind".
This modern culture, which is the creation of the likes of men such as Hugh Hefner, has not only left women and girls in a vulnerable state and needing a Safe Place ... but I hope this story helps all you men and soon to be father's out there to realize, that you too are vulnerable, and that you are in very real danger of being "left behind".
Monday, May 16, 2011
A Sci-Fi Story - A Safe Place - The Role of Fathers
Recently at our Lake County's Annual Benefit Banquet, we heard David Bereit, co-founder of 40 Days for Life, give a very inspirational talk concerning mothers and their babies. He likened the expectant mother in trouble, to a lady with a baby on the deck of a ship in a storm. His intention was to provoke in our minds, the very vulnerable position of a mother with child, which differs greatly from a person on their own. Painting this very vivid image of the vulnerability of a woman with child ... he challenged us to question our own role in how we might rescue women and their children from the jaws of abortion.
Today I will bring a personal note to my blog, as I fully believe that everything we espouse must ultimately come from a personal perspective, as well as an intellectual and philosophical one .. something our pro-abortion opponents always challenge us to do. As a woman and mother myself, I can personally attest to this vulnerability, which all women feel upon first discovering they are with child. Even a married woman like myself, upon discovering my first pregnancy, suddenly felt frighteningly vulnerable and in need of protection. Before my pregnancy with my first child, I was a very independent young woman, who felt very self-sufficient and empowered ... with or without my husband ... or anyone else for that matter. To that day, I saw my husband, as a lover, companion and friend, to accompany me along life's journey ... and our roles seemed very equal in this.
On the day I discovered I was with child, all that changed ... and suddenly ... I was forced to look quite differently at my husband. I recall leaning my head on his shoulder, and telling him how vulnerable I felt, and how this feeling of vulnerability was forcing me into a rather scary and humbling position of dependence, which to that date I had not sought from anyone. As a young woman from a broken home and tragic childhood, I had learned survival by relying upon my own wits and strengths. But now, there was another on board. Now, once again as when I was a child, I would have to entrust myself to another .. which for a kid who grew up the way I did, held not a small amount of dread. So, I looked with great expectation, and not a little fear and trembling, to my husband. In short, I looked to my husband for a Safe Place ... something I had not even known as a child myself. Not to worry though .. he did not fail me.
And so, with Mother's Day behind us, and Father's Day soon to be upon us, I will write about the roles of each, particularly because of the very life changing effect that a pregnancy will have upon a couple. How they will suddenly see one another through very different eyes, and how especially, the woman with child will now look to her man/spouse for a Safe Place. That Safe Place being the one God had ordained from the beginning of time for the woman and her child.
As soon to be empty-nesters of 5 children, my husband and I had an empty-nester date the other night, with a movie he had rented. He made some pop-corn, and we settled in on the couch to watch a Sci-Fi flick .. not necessarily my favorite .. but I prepared to enjoy my husband's company anyway. I was soon totally struck by what a pro-life message, whether intentionally or not, the story plot of this movie projected ... and it helped to inspire my subject matter here today.
The movie depicts a typical modern young couple, enjoying a superficial carefree life of pleasure and self-indulgence with the world and with one another, when all of this suddenly changes upon the woman discovering she is pregnant. At this point the young father recoils with typical reproaches of not being ready etc., lending greater stress to the young woman, who is already struggling with her own sense of unpreparedness for motherhood. Now, coinciding with the young couple's discovery of their newly conceived offspring, is a ghastly invasion of aliens from some other world, which threatens the entire earth and all human life upon it.
As the story unfolds, and the inhabitants of earth are embroiled in an intense struggle for survival, the young man goes through a sort of metamorphosis in his mind and heart, along with an obviously fantastical physical transformation (sorta like the Hulk), due to contact with the aliens. The young reluctant father is forced to come to the realization of the fragility of life on earth, and how very precious that life truly is. Along with this, as he witnesses so many of his own human race around him, being obliterated by the aliens, he is brought to a deeper appreciation for his girlfriend and the child she is carrying, calling them, "His Family". As such, he is spurred on to a greater determination to fight for their survival, as well as his own. The movie ends with his complete transformation into some sort of sci-fi comic book alien type character, who is now physically, mentally and in every other way, able to defend and protect his beloved and the child she carries.
I do not know if the writer of this script realized what a pro-life message he was creating with his story. But it was definitely a message of how a man needs to become something much more than a weak, childish and selfish pleasure seeking individual, once he is faced with fatherhood. And how he needs to completely transform himself, mind heart soul, and possibly even physically, into a Safe Place for the woman and her child. How even the future of mankind itself depends upon his transformation from selfish boy, to a manhood that is capable of fatherhood.
This is the greatest Safe Place a woman will ever know. It is the Safe Place of the man who has implanted in her the seed of life. Once a man plants a seed, he must tend the ground in which he has planted that seed. If he neglects the ground in which the seed is planted, drought and thistles will overtake it; and the earth itself in which that seed was planted will not be able to nourish and bring it to fruition. So too, an impregnated and abandoned woman risks many dangers to herself and the precious seed of life she carries within her own vulnerable person .. and the abortionist is right around the corner ... like a thistle plant waiting to strangle the life out of her. Who will be her Safe Place?
So, while we work to provide those Safe Places with our laws, and within our communities, let me remind all you men out there today, that you are the first Safe Place of the woman who carries your child. With Father's Day upon us, I pray that all fathers impress upon their own hearts, as well as the hearts of their young sons, this very sacred trust which God has so privileged you .. and it is no small privilege. It is a privilege which God has not even given to the angels!
The Book of Genesis is not yet complete, as the engendering of new life is still a work in progress. And it is to we mere mortals that this work has been assigned. We share in God's own creative power .. no small matter. It is an awesome privilege to which both men and women have been called .. and we women cannot do it alone ... we need you men! We need you to be Safe Places for us and the new life we carry. We need you to be FATHERS .. as well as lovers and friends. To be continued ....
Chance To Help Save A Baby
Legislation Update
House Bill 106 - Adds Campus Police Departments and State Police as Designated Safe Havens for Newborn Infants
Bill Status of HB106 (Illinois General Assembly)
How Can You Help?
Contact YOUR state representatives and ask them to sign on as a Co-Sponsor of HB106 and be a part of this life saving bill!
Rarely do lawmakers get a chance to write and pass laws that actually save lives. Even more rare is legislation that is written to appeal to a desperate parent in crisis. Illinois' "Safe Haven Law" does just that – it provides a safe and legal option to a parent who might otherwise abandon a newborn in a dumpster or other unsafe place.
The Safe Haven Law allows a parent to relinquish an unharmed newborn, 30 days old or younger, to personnel at a Safe Haven: a Hospital, Emergency Medical Care Facility, Police or Fire Station, anonymously, with no fear of prosecution for abandonment.
The law is simple and it works. 64 babies have been safely and legally relinquished under the Illinois law since it was passed in 2001.
What Does HB 106 Accomplish?
The Newborn Infant Protection Act currently defines a "police station" as a safe haven; however, the Act narrowly defined "police station" to mean a municipal police station or county sheriff's office. This narrowly drawn definition excludes university police stations and state police and puts newborn infants at risk.
University police departments serve an inexperienced and often immature young adult population where unplanned pregnancies occur. On any campus there is a real possibility of a newborn infant being abandoned to the environment or other unsafe places.
HB 106 will expand the definition of the Act to include campus police stations and state police as a "safe haven" where a desperate parent can bring their newborn.
Why Should HB 106 Be Passed?
This new law acknowledges that citizens already believe they can go to the police in a time of need. The police motto of "serve and protect" means an infant who might otherwise be abandoned unsafely could be saved. Parents who have abandoned their infants often say they didn't know where they could go, what they could do, and were too ashamed to ask for help. Campus students know where to find their campus police and know they will be offered help there.
Adding this option increases the odds that a newborn infant's life may be saved instead of abandoned in a dumpster or other unsafe condition.
Who Supports HB 106?
- Department of Children and Family Services
- University of Illinois Division of Public Safety
- Illinois Maternal and Child Health Coalition
- Save Abandoned Babies Foundation
Thank you to the following Representatives that want to save the lives of newborn babies who might otherwise be abandoned in an unsafe way, so much that many end up dead. Let's hope that the other Illinois State Representatives follow their lead. These legislators have signed on to sponsor HB106.
Rep. Naomi D. Jakobsson - Elaine Nekritz - Sandy Cole - Patricia R. Bellock - Chad Hays, Greg Harris, Daniel Biss, Thaddeus Jones, Tom Cross, Robyn Gabel, Linda Chapa LaVia, Chris Nybo, Norine Hammond, Robert W. Pritchard, Randy Ramey, Jr., Michelle Mussman, Camille Y Lilly, Kay Hatcher and Lisa M. Dugan
Friday, May 6, 2011
Wednesday, May 4, 2011
Credit Where Credit Is Due
Disappoipnted pro-aborts are lashing out already.
Vote on Life Today
Currently, there is a patchwork of different federal laws that restrict federal funding of abortion. However, many of these restrictions (such as the well-known Hyde Amendment, which applies to the federal Medicaid program) expire every year -- which forces the pro-life side to re-fight the same battles in Congress, year after year. Moreover, in a number of federal programs -- notably, some major new programs created by the massive Obama health care law in 2010 -- federal subsidies for abortion are currently permissible under law. H.R. 3 would replace this leaky patchwork with a permanent, government-wide prohibition on federal funding of abortion and federal subsidies for health plans that cover abortion.
The No Taxpayer Funding for Abortion Act is sponsored by Congressman Chris Smith (R-NJ) and Congressman Dan Lipinski (D-Il.), the co-chairs of the House Pro-Life Caucus.
Monday, May 2, 2011
Three Evil Stooges - Osama Bin Laden, Adolf Hitler, Sarah Weddington & Divine Justice
Now, another announcement, though slightly upstaged by the consuming news reports of Bin Laden's demise, is the reports of the infamous Roe v. Wade attorney, Sarah Weddington being laid off from her job as an adjunct professor at the University of Texas. All three of these personages can boast the same infamous claim to fame ... they are architects of the murder of innocents!
We are all too painfully aware of the evil track record of Hitler and Bin Laden; but probably less well aware, and certainly in the wake of today's Bin Laden news, of Sarah Weddington. Who is Sarah Weddington, and what is her connection to Osama Bin Laden, and Adolf Hitler? Sarah Weddington was the lead attorney in the infamous Roe v. Wade case, which legalized unlimited abortion across our nation. Today, 53 million innocent unborn children have been butchered in their mother's wombs, as a result. This overwhelmingly rivals the death count of Adolf Hitler and Osama Bin Laden's victims combined! Yet, we will not see a picture of Sarah Weddington on any FBI's 10 Most Wanted List, as she successfully legalized her terrorism in the highest court of our land, the Supreme Court.
Sarah Weddington was only 26 yrs. old, when she successfully argued the infamous Roe v. Wade case in the Supreme Court decision of 1973. This infamous ruling, subsequently mowed down every pro-life law in our nation. Sarah herself noted, that her involvement in this famous case, topped everything else in her career; and she told a Vancouver newspaper interviewer in February 2008, that she will probably be remembered for nothing greater in her career, than her involvement in that case. She stated: "There were some years when I thought, 'How will I trump Roe vs Wade?' I have finally made peace with the fact that I will never trump it," she concluded. She even went on to comment that this case will be the highlight of her obituary. What an accolade for one's life! What an epitaph on one's tombstone! "Here lies the architect of the deaths of 53 million!" Chilling!
Eva Braun, Hitler's mistress, will forever share in Adolf's epitaph, as she joined him in a dual suicide. One of Osama's, as yet unnamed wives, will now share in his epitaph, due to one of Osama's cowardly cohorts using her as a human shield, leading to her own death along with Bin Laden's. Now, Sarah Weddington's significant other, will also share in her glorious epitaph. Papers obtained from President Clinton's administration, reveal Sarah's hubby, as the one who urged President Clinton while he was Governor of Arkansas, to promote RU 486. Clinton approved the abortion drug RU486, which has since been known to have killed more than a dozen women and injuring another 1,200 more.
So, while Americans across our nation celebrate the demise of Osama Bin Laden, we might pause to reflect. First of all, we must thank God for this great mercy which He has presently shown our nation. A mercy, which might be argued, we do not necessarily deserve by merit of our own virtues. For if there is any divine justice to be considered in the topple of a murderous terrorist and tyrant, such as Osama Bin Laden, and Adolf Hitler before him, we might well consider the tyranny of abortion which still bathes our own land in the blood of far more innocent victims, and wonder what day of reckoning awaits us.
I would dare to suggest here, that yesterday's victory over our nation's enemy, was earned not only by the sacrifice of our brave military, but also, by those brave and steadfast pro-life crusaders, who have fought against the evil of abortion which has stained our own stars and stripes with blood, going on 40 years now. Were it not for the continued struggle of those in our nation, who crusade against abortion and all the other evils which plague our land, I suggest to you all here and now, that we would not be enjoying this day, and worse yet, would most likely be the ones meeting our own demise. So, in the midst of our celebrations, let us carefully consider this sobering fact.
God bless our military, who have been the ones on the front lines, paying the ultimate price in the war against this murderous fiend. But also, God bless all you pro-lifers, who have been on the front lines in the war on terror against the innocent unborn. Many of you have sacrificed much of your own family time, energy and funds, to stand bravely against the evil of abortion. To you ordinary men and women and mothers with young families, who wasted no time after Sarah Weddington launched her own 9/11 assault against innocent life, to be the First Responders, we owe you all our very deepest gratitude, along with the gratitude we owe our military. And today's victory over one of America's biggest enemies, has been earned by you, along with our brave military. For it is people such as you, who have stayed the arm of God's justice over our own nation .. and earned His mercy in delivering over one of our enemies into our hands. Carry on bravely.
